Friday 21 June 2013

"HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!!!!!!!!!!" LIBERATION FROM THE LIPS OF A GUY!!!!!!!!!


Hey Guys,

              It’s the weekendddddddddddddddd yesssssssss!!!!!!!! I love it, I had a longggg week and I have been looking forward to the rest. I come at you today with a touchy topic but I am going to say it because a lot of us need to hear it.

I was watching my CP 24 channel to check the weather forecast and saw the author of the book “He is Just Not that into You” Greg Behrendt. While getting ready for work I decided to give him a listen to hear from a male perspective why men sometimes do the things they do.

Whether it is a marriage, long term relationship, just dating or courting there are always some issues on either side. So, I got the book and I have been reading it and OMGGGGG it is eye opening!!!!!!!!!!!!

Girls, ladies, I am not taking it as gospel but this is the real deal, it speaks volumes on valuing yourself, your time and demanding a certain type of treatment from your partner. It speaks about not settling and setting standards and sticking to them.


It has brought me to a different place!!! I mean I have always had my standards but now I feel like if this can be said from the mouth of a man then we should listen.

Seee if you are WOMAN enough for the truth, it might shake the foundation of your relationships for the good.

I have taken some AMAZING MUST READ quotes from the book and placed them below, Happy reading!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
 


“A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the
woman he loves”
― Greg Behrendt
 
“If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a fcking phone call.”
― Greg Behrendt

 “I'm about to make a wild, extreme and severe relationship rule: the word busy is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes. The word "busy" is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact in every silo you uncover, all you're going to find is a man who didn't care enough to call. Remember men are never to busy to get what they want.”
― Greg Behrendt
 
“Let’s start with this statistic: You are delicious. Be brave, my sweet. I know you can get lonely. I know you can crave companionship and sex and love so badly that it physically hurts. But I truly believe that the only way you can find out that there’s something better out there is to first believe there’s something better out there. What other choice is there?”
― Greg Behrendt

 
“Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything
related to his feelings for you”
― Greg Behrendt

 
“You picked a lemon, throw it away lemonade is overrated. Freaks should remain at the circus, not in your apartment. You already have one asshole. You don’t need another. Make a space in your life for the glorious things you deserve. Have faith.”
― Greg Behrendt

 
“If the guy you’re dating doesn’t seem to be completely into you, or you feel the need to start ‘figuring him out,’ please consider the glorious thought that he might just not be that into you. And then free yourself to go find someone that is.”
― Greg Behrendt

“But what I can do is paint you a picture of what you’ll never see when you’re with a guy who’s really into you: You’ll never see you staring maniacally at your phone, willing it to ring. You’ll never see you ruining an evening with friends because you’re calling for your messages every fifteen seconds. You’ll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn’t have. What you will see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary. You’ll be too busy being adored.” ― Greg Behrendt
 
“If a man is really into you, nothing will stop him from being with you - including a fear of intimacy.” ― Greg Behrendt
 
“But he was so great!' Yes, and the people who got on the Titanic thought they were going on a vacation”  
 
xoxo
Debra
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6 comments:

  1. Ogo21 June 2013 at 15:30

    Wow this is so true and I deserve better, thanks Debra for sharing

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  2. Unknown21 June 2013 at 18:00

    Powerful words Debra!
    I always look forward to reading your blog posts.

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  3. Unknown22 June 2013 at 14:54

    "You have one asshole. You don't need another." If I read that when I was age 19-21 I would have saved SO much time, tears and heartache. Maybe would've gotten with Mr.S sooner. ::sigh:: Hindsight is 20/20 indeed.
    Thanks for this Debs.

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  4. Anonymous23 June 2013 at 06:29

    Wow this was such an awakening... thank you for sharing...

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  5. Unknown25 June 2013 at 10:22

    Nice post...

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  6. latoya26 June 2013 at 05:21

    too many times we often make excuses for the actions or lack of actions for men. too many times we look at the big picture of knowing we deserve better but look at the background picture of "he's good sometimes". but are we in a sometimes relationship? then why should we accept good treatment sometimes? nothing is perfect yes, but when someone is into you even when there is an argument he/she will respectfully resolve it. most importantly we as women should never be ashamed of being single, because single or alone doesn't equate to being lonely. we need to love ourselves b4 we will truly find love, because until this is achieved we wont know what we deserve and what we dont deserve.

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